Stepping Into Your Pain

Recently, I have had a series of disappointments. Some were life changing while some, Allah willing, I know I am going to get over them in a day or two.

Before, it used to be that my usual reaction to life’s bombshells is to crawl somewhere and deny what is going on to my heart’s content.

I will pretend none of it is happening and then I will promptly make some tea because you know……….tea and chocolate cake makes everything instantly better 🙂

Of course, the adult me will indulge the scared little girl for a few hours or days if needs be and then she will put on her big girl hijab and take matters into her own hands.

As someone once said: if you want a different result from the one you have been getting you need to take a different set of actions. So I thought to myself why not take a different approach to dealing with adversity and disappointment?

I don’t consider myself a control freak. It used to be that when things don’t work out the way I had hoped or planned for them to, I would sit and dissect the matter from every angle. I would apportion blame to the relevant parties, myself included. And then I would throw a civilised, grown up tantrum.

Learning to release outcomes is something I am teaching myself every day. Didn’t get the ‘deal of a lifetime?’ No biggie. Allah has planned something better for me. Child did not get into the school we had applied to?