In the likelihood of you being right about something like telling your loved one that if he keeps smoking he will eventually kill himself, chances are high that he still won’t listen.
It is his decision and his choice.
It isn’t easy accepting that some of your goals, dreams, your fondest desires may never come true -never mind all the ‘don’t quit’ crap.
Because this guilt that eats at us if we are not constantly on ‘go-go” mode can’t be healthy.
This self reproach because all we did today was tidy up and read a book cannot be conducive to a healthy mind.
But he is not alone in assuming things about people like me. About Coastal Muslim women to be exact.
And neither is this incident the first time I have had to defend myself, my faith and my dress. In this very city I was born and raised in.
Somehow what I aim to say, what has been my aim all along with this platform was to bring a little sunshine to people’s lives in whatever small way I am blessed to make
The mother in me- but mostly the teenage me- wants to shield them all from the disappointments that they will definitely face, the heartache, the rude awakenings.
It is a normal business as usual Tuesday morning.
Then almost out of nowhere, six men, nondescript in their appearance, emerge. Some are wearing the traditional Swahili kanzu; the others are in your standard shirt and trouser. If they walked past you at any other time you would hardly spare them a glance, there is nothing extraordinary about them, they would blend in seamlessly with the scenery.
These last few days of December, as you are looking forward to some R and R, preparing to go back to work, to send your children back to school, to embark on your goals, working on starting a new business- whatever is on your planner your calendar your mind, spare a moment for the city.
” The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you. Don’t go back to sleep.” Rumi There is something out
Indeed, self-care is a lifelong, never ending commitment to meeting your own needs and showing up for yourself
It happens that there are some days that just aren’t meant to be your days. Somehow, everything that can go wrong does go wrong and you are left pounding your fists on the wall.
