I didn’t know that I was allowing old wounds, regrets, outdated beliefs shape present day decisions. I didn’t realize I was allowing yesterday’s experiences to dictate today’s choices.
She insisted that it was a phase that he would grow out of. All he needed was for them to bear with him.
She believed whatever demons that were driving him to harm himself he would eventually conquer.
But, despite the old lady’s fondest wishes, the young man would not change; didn’t seem concerned by his family’s concern.
Wasn’t interested in being better.
We are told to teach our children not to quit………as if there is shame in quitting what isn’t working.
Why live a complicated life when a simpler one is available to all of us?
Remember simpler does not equal boring
We all know of that one person who will complain all the way about how much he hates his job, his racist boss, the commute, his deadbeat co-workers and yet will stay there for fifteen plus years. It never occurs to him, perhaps, that there is always a choice. For as long as we are alive and not in prison somewhere, then we have a choice.
I could have been the last person or the only person on this earth.
It is a humbling feeling this: to look around and see no living creature; to see no sign of ‘civilisation’ .
So next time someone approaches you for advice, check your intention. Ask yourself: will I feel insulted if she doesn’t take it?
You don’t have to do anything by a certain time. Let the old aunties pushing you to get married because all your agemates are already married with kids let them know that your time is governed by Allah’s Will.
It is never too late to change your story, to shrug off the labels you have given yourself: you are only what you say to yourself you are.
Letting go means you are no longer in charge and not being in charge can leave you scared, vulnerable and uncertain. And who wants that?
What would it be like, I wonder? to do over, start afresh, begin anew? Pack up, leave and land where
